Dec 26, 2008

Hospital cruise, anyone?

So unfortunate pula nasib sa time cuti skolah ujung tahun ni...thought that i can really have all the time in the world n post banyak2 entries d blog sa time cuti skolah....tiba2 pula my son, Adam jatuh and broke his right hand..then had 2 be operated pula tu..the doctors commented that they have to insert some kind of two plet besi inside his hand cos both his radius and ulna broke badly...and that can only be corrected by tidur di Hospital Likas with my hubby for almost 2 weeks...the doctors n nurses are all nice n concerned people..yet m sure i look like a confused zombie at d end of those weeks cos tia ckup mcm lum ada semangat sa mo update blog at tis time...

If im back 2 my normal self again...i will surely write back in....*sighs*

BTW...Merry Xmas everyone ^-^

Dec 2, 2008

Sa mo tag kamu ne...

Sa nampak tis tag somewhere so i thought of completing it for myself first (abis teda yg mo tag sa...huuuu sedey ne..) before forwarding it to some of my favourite bloggers out there...ehehe...

A. Attached or single?

Kawin da sa...ko tia mo tnya bewapa anak sa gia..?

B. Best friend?
I consider all good friends of mine are..tapi tia tau la kalu dorang pon anggap sa gitew..uhuks

C. Cake or pie?
Dua2 pon sadap...misti pilih ka..tapi sa suka chocolate moist cake..adeii

D. Day of choice?
Kalu time skul, sa suka ari 3 abis sa punya masa two periods noh...ekeke..but time cuti ni everyday feels like heaven...aaaaa

E. Essential item?
Should be 'items' huhu...tht would be my hndphone, my makeup set(abis slalu tia smpat abis makeup dari rumah time skul)..sama purse la ba..:-D

F. Favorite colors?
Green, blue, lots of red n white too..emmm

G. Gummy bears or worms?
Eeeeew...tia bagus makan ni suma..bagus wagi makan maggi..huhu

H. Hometown?

I. Favorite indulgence?
Reading magazines related to home interior designing, jalan2 cari makan, ambil gambar walaupun tia la pro huhu...n sa suka try mekap baru d muka anak sa...ahaha

J. January or July?
Both...cos 10th Jan my hubby's bday..23rd July my son's bday..

K. Kids?
M a proud mum of 3 best ever kids..2 sumandak n 1 starring..hehe

L. Life isn’t complete without?
my family n friends..

M. Marriage date? 28 September 1991...

N. Number of magazine subscriptions:
Used to subscribe Reader's Digest last i prefer to buy from shelves ja..bnyk lagi choice ctu

O. Oranges or apples?
oren lagi best...

P. Phobias? paling gali sama ularrrrrr cicak n lipas...eeeeeee

Q. Quotes?
In the middle of difficulty lies an keep up your suka ne

R. Reasons to smile? Na la tau leh kin awet muda kali..? hikhikhik

S. Season of choice?
kaamatan (abis ngam2 tekana bday sa 31st May..huhu) n of course la xmas ne

T. Tag 5 people.

5 ja ka? Sa tia mo tag jugak 6 febret bloggers sa...jeng3x

1. Nordee
2. Poyotito's
3. Sufi Idany
4. Liewani
5. Cikgu Oden (Selumbar Emas)
6. Ajai05 c pezal...
hah...ambik kamu geng..misti jawab aar..

U. Unknown fact about me?
kalu kmu suda baca my previous entries, kamu tau la itew...

V. Vegetable?
Misti ada ne time makan..kalu teda tia ummph

W. Worst habits?
uhuks...selain drp yg no.U d atas itew, sa ne obses cket ngan susun2 brg ne..suma barang esp dlm rumah msti lurus,cntik,kemas mcm skema cket laa..kalu miring cket sa kasi betul smpai la betul2 nmpk prfect..msti tension gila kali anak2 sa ohoho..satu lagi, sa kalu makan lambat bener selesainya..ko leh oder 2nd bowl of sup tulang lagi kalu mo tunggu sa siap makan...ehehe..(tapi sa brusaha utk cpt abis mkn..esp d hotel...malu kalu tinggal sa lagi saturang mngunyah2 ctu..huhu)

X. X-ray or ultrasound?
ultrasound? slalu jgak las time bila mo cek baby ehehe..

Y. Your favorite food?
asal yg asam2...assam kari mee, tomyam mee...sluurrrp...

Z. Zodiac sign?
Geminian bah sa ne...

Lapar pula g cari makan dulu la...d kadai ehehe

Nov 24, 2008

Dorang bilang...

I got the following insights (minus the photos ye..) posted thru my email by one of good, long time friends of mine, gak mo baca tis kind of stuff sekali sekala...regardless whether they are true or not, it is sure enlightening to know that some friends do keep us close to their hearts :-)


Your Life Path Number is 7.
Your purpose in life is to find truth and meaning

You are very spiritual, and you are interested in the mysteries of life...
You are quite analytical and a great thinker. You have many theories and insights.
A life of solitude is perfect for you. You need time to think and do things your way.

In love, you are quite charming. You attract many with your confidence and wit..

While you enjoy being alone, sometimes you take it to an extreme.

You can become too isolated, shutting out loved ones and friends...
Express yourself a little bit more, and you'll be surprised where it takes you!

Unique and creative, you seek your own path in life.
You love change and are able to adapt to any situation.
Your soul reflects: Sweetness, joy, and a complete life.

Your gemstone: Emerald

Your flower: Lily of the Valley
Your colours: Yellow, red, and green...


You come across as somewhat intellectual. You can be quite insightful at times...

You have amazing hygiene, and it shows. You are sparkling clean!

You are a very domestic person. You enjoy decorating, cooking, and making things homey...

You are a very nurturing person. You find meaning in taking care of others...

You feel settled in your life. You have enough time to focus on little details...

You are a very self sufficient person. You can get along well without much help..

Your friends see you as courageous, dynamic, and bright...


You are usually the best at everything ... you strive for perfection..
You are confident, authoritative, and aggressive.
You have the classic “Type A” personality..

You are very intuitive and wise. You understand the world better than most people...
You also have a very active imagination. You often get carried away with your thoughts..

You are prone to a little paranoia and jealousy. You sometimes go overboard in interpreting signals...

You are deeply philosophical and thoughtful. You tend to analyze every aspect of your life.
You are intuitive, brilliant, and quite introverted. You value your time alone.
Often times, you are grumpy with other people. You don't appreciate them trying to interfere in your affairs...

You are friendly, charming, and warm. You get along with almost everyone.
You work hard not to rock the boat. Your easy going attitude brings people together.
At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, you pull it together.

You are relaxed, chill, and very likely to go with the flow....
You are light hearted and accepting. You don't get worked up easily.
Well adjusted and incredibly happy, many people wonder what your secret to life is..

Nov 19, 2008

Proudly 'consider' yourself as a Sabahan if...

  • You feel "obligated" to reach the top of Mount Kinabalu at least once in a lifetime...
  • You know where to get your candles and torch light quickly in the total darkness (due to training by frequent blackouts)
  • You know what "Aramaitiee!!" means...
  • You doubt whether someone's MyKad is real or fake one...
  • You come across a supposedly local person but with a very foreign accent...
  • You cannot vote in an election because someone has voted on behalf of you...
  • You can say and fully understand these words....

tuuuna/ saaaana - (u say these out while pointing with your lips to a certain direction) there, at a distance = d situ, d sana..
kalu (if) = kalau
sa/sia (I) = saya
ko (you) = awak, engkau..
limpas (to pass/walk by) = tumpang lalu (e.g. Sa limpas dulu aaa..)
tapuk (to hide ) = bersembunyi
bida (ugly) = nda cantik, nda kiut gitu.. 
bubut (to chase) = kejar
sakai (ignorant, uncivilized) = nda tau apa2, ketinggalan la lbih kurang...
andang-andang (that's how it is) = memang sudah begitu..
sapak (mix as in cooking) = campur/gaul esp utk masakan
inda/tia (short form of "not", "no") = tidak
wicin (a brand of msg as in "ajinomoto" - a seasoning or food enhancer) = serbuk perasa ler...
talampau (over, too much) = terlampau..
takajut (shocked, startled) = terkejut, terperanjat
siorang ( us, we) = kami..
dorang (they) = mereka
ngam-ngam ( exact, at that time) = kebetulan..
mangkali (maybe, perhaps) = barangkali...
kamarin (yesterday) = kelmarin
siring (by the side) = di tepi
miring (in a sloping position) = condong, senget... siok (best, excited) = syok, seronok...
= ok...
Korang belajar ni perkataan2 kio...baik utk masa depan..manatau smpai Sabah satu hari nti tidak la blur abis...
M proud to be a Sabahan...^-^

Nang if you like this post! :-)

Nov 14, 2008

SMSFX Annual Dinner 2008

Last night we had our school's annual abis dinner kami this year..meja kami paling bising n paling happening cos ada c asrul sama c tan bercengkerama hahahaha...tepa la bising2 jap kan..kita release tension sekali sekala...kalu terlampau formal tia best ..that would be an utterly boring dinner then..tepa la tia mnang best dressed malam itu...camna mo mnang kalu ada yg buta wona..ingatkan pakai baju wona cokewat.. rupa2nya pink tarang..haha

Ada karaoke acara nynyi2 jgak..Apa lagi..suma pun tnjuk bakat menyumbangkan irama...pastu tia pasal2 sa n rita pun kena suruh p karaoke d depan...adeiii..kewam-kabut n tunggang tebawik kali suma tu cengkerik d luar hotel masuk dlm tanah time dengar kami dua nynyi semalam hehehee...

Gambar2 sa tia berapa best.. bnyak mo tukar camera baru la ne..(this would be my BEST excuse + bikin muka seposen if I relate to my hubby later then...hoho)...tangan anak sa yg bergegar kali time ambik shot kami suma...maklumlah kami suma vogue kali itu malam hahahahahahahahaha...deii perasan
Pasni sa mo minta gmbaw dinner from dila's camera la pulak..kalu cmera dia mang terang benderang abis...jewawat ko yg paling kici pon kena scan abis...pastu nti sa post gmbar itew msuk blog sa ..jan risau dila..hak cipta ko tetap terpelihara..haha

ni la kawan2 sa yg sporting abis las nite...tan, asrul, nor n beth..siap agogo lagi drg ne..huhu
ni sa sama my good fren Rita..bewabis sudah c Rita tnjuk gigi itew..hihi
wohoho...vogue ka kami...hikhikhikhikhik
best jgak melaram sekali sekala year wona apa la pula theme tuk dinner nor...mintak2 bukan kelabu aaa...

Nov 11, 2008

Mcm lama sudah...

Mo update tis blog yg betul2 update pon mcm susah skarang ne...been busy with school stuff..bnyk deadlines hve to be met...kemarin ja kena compile SPM Trial punya analysis 4 the curriculum meeting..pastu sa ada review on nov 6..pastu hve 2 review again tis nov 13..tension sa ingat tu bau hspital..segala wayar2 mesin dorang..
the other day i got the SKT form yg spatutnya sa suda isi tis week cos kena htr tis week jga..sadly, sa lupa suda sa taruh mana tat form...kalau la betul2 hilang...cmana la sa mo susun ayat sa ne mo mnta form yg baru ne...? adeii...

nov 13 ne we will b hving our annual school dinner...dress theme dia wona cokewat lagi tia smpat shopping 4 baju cokewat...hrp2 tia kana tahan d entrance n suruh pulang tukar baju...ahahaha...tepa cat kuku kaki sa wona brown ja ni...ada juga ikut theme cket2...ehehe


Nov 9, 2008

Minus One Singing Competition Pesta Koningou '08

Nov 7 hari tu ada pertandingan nyanyi minus one sempena perayaan Pesta Koningou 2008..the event was actually an annual one for cos mcm2 bleh jmpa ni time...ada special tamu(lots of stuffs here..ada jual bunga..jual beg, kuih2.. but sa heran the prices mcm mahal sa cuci mata ja..moreover i got caught in preparing my lil Abby nyanyi malam for the final..Abby is among the 5 finalists for the competition...dia masuk kategori D (15 tahun ke bawah) she has to beat budak sekolah menengah...langkah kanan kali kami that morning cos bila malam kena announce result, c Abby managed to come 3rd..congratss

time tunggu turn naik pentas mo nynyi...
urrghh...kinda heavy tis wig ..
mcm frust ja itew wajah...tepa la..
the experience worths it...
abby n fiona (Category C), one of our students..dpt 3rd place 
tis one gmbar abby perform on the next day 8 Nov..

all the winners 1st - 3rd place were then called to perform just before the Ratu Pesta Koningou competition on the next day Nov 8...kira mcm isi acara selingan i guess..but i x wait n tngok the pertndingan ratu cos sa punya kepala berat semacam sdah time tu..balik rumah n headed for the bed...i had bad flu n fever that nite...

Oct 20, 2008

I Got Tagged!

State 15 weird things/ habits/ little known facts about yourself.

sa dapat tagged dari c dilla mama suruh sa jwb..waa 15 ja ka dila..huhu..bah, sedia kamu..kalau baca tapi tia faham, buat2 faham ja kamurang aar..

1. Sa ni kan bangsa Kadazan..bumiputra yg lahir d Sabah, sure pure Kadazan TAPI org slalu sangka sa Filipino. Kalau drg bilang sa ni org putih sa tia gak berapa marah..but filipino? errr helloooo...? cousin sa slalu ckp dia bilang ok gak bah tu ko kna sngka filipino...ko pikir tagalog punya filipino tia hot meh? (ya la..itu kalau tagalog..kalu yg dll..?) snyum ja la skrg kalau ada yg sngka gitu..but bukan la mksud sa being a filipino or african tu tia best..cuma sa ni memangggg la Kadazan original..

2. Kalu c dila dpt lesen 3 thn lpas, sa pula dpt driving lesen sa umur 20 kalu tia silap thn 1989..time test sa saturang ja pompuan..tia tau la sa pass driving test sa pasal tu ka atau memang sa suda terer driving..hohoho..tapi time buat side parking sa bepeluh-peluh gak la..pas dpt lesen sa hri2 bawa kreta p kk to my workplace...yg kin sot tu asal sampai traffic light msti enjin mati...besa la tu kalu kena hon2..dulu2 kan mana ada sign P...tapi sa kin muka slumber ja..padahal tuhan ja yg tau pewasaan sa...adeiii malu eh

3. Jadi guru bukan la cita2 sa yg asal dulu gila mo msuk radio n angan2 mo jadi juruhebah d rtm..naah...time kerja part time d Jbtn Pertanian dulu, sa dpt interview broadcaster d rtm kk...tapi time tnggu jwpn dpt pula masuk maktab..time d mktab dpt la pula surat panggilan rtm.. tapi memang bukan rezeki sa tia leh quit maktab suda time tu cos suda sign brg perjnjian..kamu tau ka sa sedih tul itu time.. kalu mo jga, sa kena bayar balik kpm rm25,000.00...mana la sa ada duit jadi cigu ja la...

4. Sa cepat nangis punya...time bujang2 dulu sangat la jarang tul kwn2 sa bawa p panggung tenguk wayang esp kalu crita kalu nangis memang teda ampun peduli apa...sakit bah tu dada mo tahan2..sian ..malu mngkin dorang kalu sa suda start nangis d panggung hahaha..kalu d rumah sa sndiri ko imagine ja la mcamna sa pinya sinetron airmata....

5. adeii..yg ni kan sa betul2 let out my biggest secret kuat mengigau..huahuaha..Tepa la kalau stakat mengigau bckap2 dlm tiduw..tapi oooooooi kes sa ni lagi hebat siap ngan tangan n kaki lagi ikut..kalau my hby tu...emm jan ckp la..siok2 tidur tiba2 paaap!!! kanyang bah dia kana tampar2 oleh sa time sa ngigau..kdg2 kna cubit lagi hehe..kalau p krsus mana2 n kena stay for days or week n kena stay 1 bilik ngan org lain, sa la org yg paling susa takut sbb sa bkan tau apa sa ckp pun..

6. Sa seboleh2nya tia mo ikut nyanyi lagu2 patriotik ni..esp lagu btul2 tia boleh..bulu roma sa berdiri telinga sa pon rasa mcm mo kembang n sa mcm mo menangis time nynyi..adeiii sound stupid kan tapi memang sa tul tia bleh...time prhmpunan skolah pun sa miming ja dlm ati..(..tia tau la kalu c dila pewasan ka tidak...hihi) tu pun sa balik2 kelip mata spaya tia ketara ada airmata dpan students...terlebih patriotik kali sa ni kan? ehee..

7. Sa obses cket sama benda2 yg ada kaitan ngan hiasan dalaman rumah ..kalau dtg mood rajin, sa bersungguh2 la hias rumah sa yg kici tu. Dulu musim org kmpul patung itik sa pun sibuk sama...verandah rumah pun sa kasi baris itik2 sa..baru tu kan mcm2 pesen lagi gaya posing itik2 yg kna jual time tu...siap d toilet pun ada itik..tapi skarang itik2 sa yg d verandah tu bnyak suda yg 'terbang' p bawah rumah..time kelam kabut cari kasut, anak2 sa tendang2 ja dorang suma..ada yg hilang kepala..ada yg tinggal ekor...sabarr ja la..

8. Buah2an tmpatan memang mkn suma kecuali durian n papaya masak...kalau papaya mentah versi jeruk tu feberet sa...kwn2 sa bilang sa paling rugi tia mkn durian...tepa la..ada sejarah ba tu napa sa tia mkn..biar la sa ja yg tau :-) more thing..buah honeydew pun sa tia minat..tu mcm kira sepupu papaya ..

9. Sa paling suka makan ikan..tapi tolak ikan pari n ikan jalak ja hehe...ikan pari sa tia suka cos..errr...mcm ada bau *tuuuuut*...kalau ikan jalak pula (in case la c poyotito tia kenal mna 1 ikan jalak itew sebenarnya ikan haruan geng...) sa asyik trbayang2 kepala tu ikan..ada rupa ckit2 mcm hewan yg pnjang melilit tu...eeeeeee...

10.Sa tia berapa takut ngan hantu...(kononnya..hehe) tia pernah la lagi jmpa real hantu dpan2 mata selama ni n minta2 la tia akan jumpa smpai bila2..tapi kalau bos sa teda d rumah time malam sa susah mo tidur smpai pagi cos sibuk balik2 bangun cek tingkap n pintu rumah..adeiii ..diulangi aa..bukan sa takut cuma takut tetamu x d undang masuk rumah...fobia sa last time rumah kena masuk siang2..smpat makan coklat almond sa lagi tu pncuri..tia tau malu..

11.Jgn la pesan sa beli barang tanpa bagi sangat la pelupa pnya banyak kali da lmbat sampai skolah gara2 tia jumpa knci kreta time pagi or petang p skolah..ada sekali tu sa jalan trus ngan buku2 sekali atas bonet kreta...sib bek anak sa nmpak so smpat la bhenti.....tpi teda lawan yg pakai high-heel sa yg abis da tu Centre Point sa sukat then only I realised the price tag was still neatly stuck on my heels...

12. Anything with Angelina Jolie, Will Smith, Charlize Theron, Oprah, Matt Damon, Hans Isaac, Rosyam Nor, Jasmin Hamid, Sheila Rusly, Celine Dion n Avril Lavigne would make my suma org2 yg work hard, earn well n spend wisely...kira ada wawasan la n leh kin idols la jgak...

13. Sa gila Elvis Presley...yg ni len cket gila sa dari yg no.12 tadi...actly 1 family gila elvis ehehe...lebih2 lagi c adam anak sa...perasan2 kunun mo ikut snyuman gaya elvis yg bibir nek sebelah...hohoho..kalau la dia masih idup msti best...

14. Sa tia suka kucing sebenar-benarnya...(bukan cam c dila tu...kucing dia c Bulan demam pon dia siap lap bagi basah bulu..hoho)...hidung sa snsitif cket...tapi sa kalah ngan anak2 sa esp c rachel yg memang GILA kucing...(in short, suma hewan dia sayang...termasuklah cicak...ada ka patut biawak pun dia bilang kiut..eeeeww)..tapi tia sanggup tul sa tngok muka dia time my hby larikan anak kucing dia last time...sedih sa..pastu my hby mcm org gila cari balik anak kcing tu dlm parit ...konpem satu kerugian dia p msuk parit mlm2 sbab anak kcing tu steady ja balik rmh ngan sndirinye...haha

15. Kelemahan sa...seboleh2nya mo jaga hati n perasaan org len all the time..kdg2 terlalu menjaga smpai ati sendiri pula yg terluka..well, we can't please every one, right....kwn2 slalu ckp jgn terlmpau berlembut dlm sesetengah perkara..but that's just a plain me...

16. Satu buat keja suma guna tangan kanan...kecuali makan makan mmang guna tgan kiri guna sudu bah..tangan kanan pun expert juga tau.....n tukar gear keta pon guna tangan kiri jgak...ehehe..sama la kita ye poyotito...hehe

Oct 16, 2008

sa saket kepawa ne...

adeiii...boring aar arini..teda sangat cewita best tuk kongsi sma sibuk aarr tanda kertas exam stdents 2nd sem ni...tension saket kapla segala bab mo termntah pun ada gak.. mcm2 versi jwpan ada ikut suka hati dorang..kalau spm jawab mcm ni punya stail abis la sa..konpem sa awal2 pingsan time mesyuarat analisis skolah..itu baru pweksa paper 1 esei..paper 2 pun baru separuh jalan ...kalau klas topaz sa tutup mata ja pweksa...tia susah cos mmang teda jawapan pun...antar kertas kosong...tapi ada juga stdents yg isi masa dia ngan keja2 yg sngat la berfaedah..cthnya; lukis gmbar kepala arnab...lukis power ranger...hati ngan panah...tulis nma dia sebesar2 kertas soalan tu pun ada gak...kmu leh bygkan ka perasaan sa ni...

tapi..kalau bab lakunan..kira berbakat gak ler drg ni...
tadi d skul ada ceramah bab headcount mengcount segala...bnyak tul nombor2 atas mang tia bleh tul kalau bab nmber2 cam pobia tahap cipan final stage brain kan mcm otomatik ja pndai off kalu jumpa mathematical terms...sib bek la penceramah tu guru dari skul lain..ok gak la at least have smething new 2 see ehehe...c dilla, c nor n c ani tau sangat tu pa maksud sa...ohoho..tapi sian juga dorang time mkn bekfast tadi ingatkan dpt tenung2 ngan lebih dekat c pnceramah..top2 lain pula wajah yg trpaksa d tenung ye...? kmu leh bygkan ka perasaan drg nor time tu....

dorang ni kan kawan2 seperjuangan sa...
* c adah (dia mcm ptptn d skul sa..hehe)
* c nor (ko jumpa ja dia kalau ko musykil..)
* c ani (sian tia mkn dari pagi time open hse dia..huhu)

yg sebwah tu kan...
* c dilla (dia len ckit klu jmpa kucing...pandai len-len trus manja-manja..ngeeee)

bsok ada krsus penampilan diri d skul tuk guwu2 wanita you...yg tia best tu sa tia dpt join cos ada hal..(napa gak tekana time2 camni..deiii)...pastu yg paling mahal bsok ada jmuan ariraya...yg ni kan sa tia leh miss..paling rugi kalau trmiss makan c dilla punya sate(padahal men oder ja sebwah pagaw...hihihi)...atau pun c asrul punya nasi impit sama kuah ntah pa mo berusaha ni 2 get there b4 the jamuan...kmu leh bygkan ka perasaan kami ramai2 mkn time tu....

ni c asrul yg tersengih-sengih...tapi dia terer aar masak...ehehe

issshh...sambung balik la pweksa paper ni...adeiiiii

Oct 14, 2008

syok tis photofunia...

like the pic above very much...mcm best ja kalau real kuar tv kan..ehehe..tu gambar sumandak i yg sulung...rachel...kira mo simpan gak gmbar sndiri situ..tapi takut pula lcd tv tu tetiba miring pulak...tuk info kekawan yg krg fasih slang sabah ni...miring tu ertinya kawan2..itu ja la topik a word a day kita pada hari ni ye....

Oct 13, 2008

Living is Learning…

I’ve learned…
that it’s not what happens to people that’s important, it’s what they do about it.
I’ve learned…
that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
I’ve learned…
that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I’ve learned…
that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
I’ve learned…
that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes, after that you’d better know something.
I’ve learned…
that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do but to the best you can do
I’ve learned…
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life
I’ve learned…
that you cannot make someone love you, all you can do is be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to them
I’ve learned…
that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back
I’ve learned…
that it takes years to build up trust and only seconds to destroy it.

Did you marry the right person?

Kamu baca la bah dulu tis article but i can't remember da where i read last time...but memang best.This is a very good, interesting article..those who are still single mingle tu u better read na la tau u may learn something from here…. Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage…. mcm kitaurang la dila...huhu


Here’s the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called "falling" in love…

Because it’s happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You can’t "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That’s why we have the expression "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"… Not just a feeling :-)

Thanks to dilla mama kucing...

So...secara rasminya i have my own blog da ..owe it to dilla yg tersangat la giwa ngan benda2 camni...then i thought hey why not juga if we can have our own personal least we can post n share thoughts during the upcoming year end school least those things can keep your butt from continuously checking in the fridge for some unhealthy snacks.

Tis week cuti pmr but kena dtg schl lined-up activities da for us courses n we have (grasp your composure my friends for this...a BEAUTY & GROOMING COURSE..for us the teachers this coming, isn't it?  ^ - ^


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